Self Motivation- Introspection

Don't we always feel we have to fit it and gel well with the people around? We are always insecure about who we are. We really feel anxious about all that is going to happen to us a few years from now. But, shouldn't we be doing what we are passionate about? Shouldn't we be expecting more out of anyone but our self?

There are somethings that bother us all the time. Let's name a few and try and look objectively as to how to overcome them.

1) Self doubt

              We always worry about the way we look. We worry if we are a tad too fat or too thin.
We must understand that we have to accept us for our physical appearance. We must not put ourselves down based on our physical appearance. We must start loving our physique. Stop obsessing to become fat or thin. It's a good thing to be health conscious but, then don't go overboard and starve yourself.

Look in the mirror everyday, tell yourself, "I'm going to accept the body that I'm in. I'm beautiful individual just the way I am." Believe in you.

Like yourself. A person who dislikes them self is very burdensome. Think of yourself as you are worth of every penny you spend on yourself. Buy the dress you always wanted to. Go out on a dinner all alone, spend some time introspecting on life.

Be humble and polite in whatever situation life puts you through. Accept the people who love you and embrace them. Love the caresses. Believe that you are worthy of all the love you are getting. .  Den't let yourself to get immobilized.

Happiness is the way of living. You are blessed.

2) Approval seeking

              Stop seeking approval from people around. What you think of yourself is important than what others think of you. Narendra modi created a landslide by getting more than 50% votes. So, if in a daily basis you get half of your friends to agree to what you say you are a great person. People love you.

But, do not expect people to approve of what you do. Don't hurt yourself for your inability to make decisions. You DO NOT NEED APPROVAL. Your self-esteem is located in you.

People who love you will disapprove of what you do.Don't let the disapproval immobilize you. Expect disapproval, when you get it, you won't get surprised.Run into it.

"You have the choice in how you're going to process." Being approved of is wonderful. But, expect disapproval quite often.

3) Attachment to past

              We all like to imagine about the what-if's. It may be the guy or girl you thought you loved. It may be the career path you did not choose. You imagine if you have done things differently back then, you wouldn't have been here. But, for all I can say is, don't be trapped by the past.You don't live in the past anymore.

"As you think, so shall you be." Stop labeling yourself. Don't label yourself to be bad at something. Many people often feel they are not good at math. We tend to develop a fear against this subject. Don't let this happen to you.If you believe it then, you're acting on it and you get yourself trapped. You must RIP OFF the LABEL. Say to yourself, "Up until now, I've not liked math but, now on I will love math and work my way through."

"You can be anything you want to be." You can choose your personality. You get to make your choice. Break free. Don't hang on to the things from the past. Don't stop yourself. Don't fool yourself. Don't take on habits that hamper your growth. You are working when you are inspired.

So, stay inspired, spread happiness and love. :)

Do what you love!

It so happens that due to the pressure by society or peer group or parents we don't always get to do things our way. If we love doing the thing they are against it so much that we can go against it and do it, I think we really should.

You should always trust your instincts and persuade the dreams you've been having since a long time. Believe that you can achieve all that you dream off. It's a good thing to dream and follow it. It is said that when we are little we know distinctly what we want to be in life. But, as we grow older our pragmatic self doesn't allow us to look at life with the same zestfulness we had years ago. We stop following what we believe in because of many people who come along and because of the circumstances. It's worthwhile to trust your gut feeling and being passionate about your beliefs.

I have always believed in the values imparted by my parents. But, once we grow up, we start reiterating on the morals and values according to the current scenario. One thing we must always remember is that only YOU are responsible for the decisions you've taken and all the results thereon. Blaming anybody else for any situation will be very wrong.

How do you do it?

1) To achieve big, love yourself
             It is crucial. Understand nobody is perfect. We must work hard towards it. There is no easy way out than to accepting the fact that you are what you are. Love yourself for being imperfect and be thankful for what you have. There is always room for improvement.


2) Forgive, don't forget
              We all make mistakes. Forgive yourself for doing so. Only if you commit mistakes, you will learn. Mistakes help you learn a lot of important life lessons. Be proactive and correct the mistakes. Make sure you don't repeat them in future, that's why don't FORGET.

3) Make realistic goals
              Don't plan on something that can't be done overnight. Plan for achieving a short term goal first. Give yourself credits and reward for successful completion. Go out and shop for the dress you've always wanted. Go to the club you've always wanted. Splurge in for yourself. Indulge in spending some lone time.

4) Retrospect the plan
               After the short term goals have been achieved focus on the long term goals now. Remember you have to take baby steps. Don't rush. Only if you endure deep pain now, you'll be able to succeed in future. Don't fret if you don't meet your expectation.

5) Take a break
               Taking a break to cool off is really important. Go out on the trip you've always wanted to go. Go to the music concert. Have a get together with high school friends and catch up with them.
You'll gain perspective and a little inspiration.

6) Follow up the plan
                 Keep working toward your ultimate dream. Don't loose hope. Keep yourself motivated. Thinking about the happiness you get after achieving the end result will keep you going.

7) Don't let people change who you are
                 People may try to belittle you or laugh about your dream. Expect people to laugh at you so that you won't be surprised when they do. Trust me, initially you may sound ridiculous to them. But, like I said you have the right to decide on what you've to do.

YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE. NOBODY ELSE IS.
You are just as worthy as anybody else. You have a great potential in you. Trust yourself. Stop loathing yourself. Accept who you are. Nobody else can make you happy. Wake up everyday thinking about positive thing about yourself.

Be happy. :) All the best!! :)
      

The vacancy!

How many of us really know how fulfilling our lives are? We always want more or wish things were better. We always have something or the other that is missing in our lives. I call it the vacancy!

I feel there's a void in my life. Even when I have people around me, I feel disconnected to them. I'm an extrovert but, when it comes to friendship I hardly have a handful of them whom I can really look up to at times. I can bind with people instantly, strike conversations and inspire people. When it comes to me there's no one who does things like these to me except for my sister.

I still remember how I used to sleepover at my friends place, we used to gossip, watch horror movies, talk about our lives. It was so much fun! Now, these girls are working and they've moved to some other city. I hardly hear from them. Not just that, I really thought my guy-friend and I would stay best friends forever! But, people are correct when they say nothing lasts forever. Our friendship survived even when we were miles apart. All it took was just one girl to come in between our friendship & Voila!!  WE DON'T TALK ANYMORE!! So, people change and you learn from the changes. You realize distance changes relationships.

So, what do we do to keep ourselves happy and not worry about trivial things like these.
All we have to do is do whatever makes us happy :) It can be anything form listening to music, reading a book, watching a movie, spending some time in a place close to nature, hiking, trekking or anything that give you happiness. Like I love listening to music. I get my inspiration form the lyrics of the songs I listen to. :)

So fill in the vacancy all you've to do is do things that you love doing or what you've always wanted to do! That will really give you the confidence that you required. Most of all you don't have to change yourself for anybody! Be yourself and trust whatever happens, happens for a cause and it'll help you to get in a better place from where you are now.

Everything is temporary! Life is full of ups and downs. So, even if you feel gloomy, remember its temporary and happiness will get to you soon!!

Raise your head! Smile!! :) Go ahead and have a great day :)
Share your experience of how you overcame your vacancy!
Thank you!

Why be somebody else?

All of us want to be somebody in life. Have you ever thought whom that is?

Why loose your identity when trying to be somebody else when you can be the best of you? You have a great potential and all you need to do is just manifest them and try and find out what you're really good at. Not everybody can be good at the same thing. I may be good at badminton and you may be good at dancing and your friend might be very good at solving mathematical problems easily. 

We can't be masters of everything. We can attain mere perfection in a thing or a two. But, to do that we must explore various fields; even if it means you've to take up a huge risk. We are meant to follow our dreams and chase them. 

It is said that when we are kids, we know what we are here for in life. But, as we grow up we start focusing on the things that are trivial to us and loose the focus we had on our dream, that we were so determinant in achieving. One of the reasons why we give up is because we feel the things that we dream about are never achievable by us.

But like its said, If you want something so bad, the whole world conspires in uniting everything to help you attain your goal. Life is unpredictable and nothing lasts forever. We must learn to love what we have right now. Following your favorite personnel is different than being somebody else.

If its for the good, we can imbibe and bring about the necessary change. We must always empathize a situation before being judgmental about any situation. There are reasons why things happen. Everything is for your good. 

Why thinking about the future can be stressful at times?

Have you been caught up by your past, or lost too much of time in wondering what might happen in near future. We all have! The human mind is the most complicated thing in the world. Just to explain this, we can see how we understand the feelings of the people around yet we refrain to act upon it. Are we just heartless to not care about an animal on the street that is dying?

Let's put it simply, haven't you been asked what are your goals? Long term goals and short term goals? When people ask you lot of questions, you start wondering, " where will I end up in 5 years from now? ". You start imagining things and day dream for a really long time. So, what do you get out of it? We all are just left blank at times. Aren't we?

We have better things to do at the moment, than wonder about our future and what it should be like, according to us. The virtue of the future that we are caught up in, is what the future,"according to us", is. It becomes pointless because we never know what's really in store for us.

Its rightly said in the Bhagawad gita, that

कर्मणयेवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।
मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि||

which means- 

“You have a right to perform your prescribed action,but you are not entitled to the fruits of your action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results your activities,and never be associated to not doing your duty.”
 from the forty seventh verse in second chapter of Bhagawad Gita.

But, we might as well wonder how can we not expect anything and just do our duty? We shouldn't get caught up thinking about the future so much that we forget to do what we are entitled to do. We all are here on the earth for a certain reason. We must work towards it and know what you're good at, by trial and error method. There are no hard and fast rules for leading life. Each one lives theirs and writes their own novel. We are also equally curious as to know what happens in the climax of the book and if it all ends well.


All I can say is we must put in all our efforts and leave the rest to the almighty. We must excel in whatever we undertake. That is what makes life challenging and interesting. But, don't forget to have fun in life. You can learn a lot of things by committing mistakes, but, make you sure you don't repeat the same.

Live life. Love life.

Believe in your conscience

Conscience is a man's compass.

How  many of you have overpowered the inner voice within you? We have this tendency to over-analyze a situation and take the wrong decision at the end. People who have achieved big in life are the one's who rule their subconscious mind. It's a proven fact that subconscious mind is powerful than the conscious mind.

Like for example before natural calamities, the animals in the surroundings sense the danger before hand and start responding to the environmental changes. We might have heard a voice from inside of us trying to stop us from doing things. But, how many of us actually stop doing it immediately? Hardly ever!

The changes in our life must come from the impossibility to live otherwise than according to the demands of our conscience not from our mental resolution to try a new form of life.

With advancement of technology, we have lost the human touch in everything. People meet others online, start dating each other online. You seem to believe in everything that the other person tells you about themselves. It depends from person to person to completely believe in what they tell. What if your date asked you for a recent picture of yours? Would you hesitate to send one? Well if you are mirror-cracking material, then you wouldn't else you'd think a thousand times before doing so. Listen to your conscience. If you would send the picture of yours to your mother, then trust me you are listening to your conscience. If not, you've to rethink on what you are doing. With all the hype about technology, your picture can be easily misused. And once you share it with someone, it can reach many people.Now, you hadn't thought about that, had you?

Personally, I try to overpower the inner voice telling myself," you think too much". I believe many of you have been there. But, its a great sense of achievement once you start understanding yourself. There are a million things you need to know about yourself. Invest some me time. It can be anything from reading a book and thinking what would you have done if you were the character; empathizing others. Start wondering how would I have reacted in such a situation. It answers many questions about the kind of person you are.

Can we stop this shame??

After the Delhi gang rape case, many such incidents have been brought into the limelight. But are the protests and  blogging or signing petitions and taking out rallies enough to stop such inhumane and barbaric acts? They're sabotaging our country's cultural wealth. The Indians are known for their cultural heritage and they are said to worship women goddesses and look at them with equal respect that is given to god!

But, what's happening everyday? Many women and young gals step out of house with the time clock ticking every second and parents who start worrying the moment their kids step out of the house. They are endlessly frightened until they see their kids are back home safe. So is India safe for women?!

India is a country where women are worshiped as goddesses. But, do men in India really respect women? Its only because a woman wears short dresses and walks down the streets at wee hours the men think that's an invitation to explore the girl? It's a matter of shame. What about the women who belong to other countries? They dress according to their culture. With all due respect to their culture and women we must not judge people by the dress they wear. And the politicians should stop making hasty comments on women. We say that India is developing! I wonder in what way are we really progressing because there are many homeless, poor, hunger-stricken, orphans who don't have anybody to look up-to. An addition to all the socioeconomic problems are the rise in crime rate with each minute. Only thing is that many don't lodge a complaint in the nearest police station and this in turn gives the criminals a lot of confidence to indulge in such activities in the future. This happens most of the times, the parents of the victim think it's shameful to report such a thing to the police and it'll affect their daughter's life. It not just affect their daughter's life but also puts many girls life at risk.

So, the protests and campaigns are enough to stop this Shame?? When are we going to wake up to the reality that is happening around us? Would you let your sister step out of the house for a night out with her girls? I bet you wont! How can we make India a better place for women to live in?

We must educate children to respect women because a woman gave birth to us and introduced us to the world. Only if we respect a women we can become a better citizen. Respect a women's privacy and don't stalk her just because she's wearing a short dress. DO NOT PRESUME THINGS ON YOUR OWN. Everyone has the right to dress according to their needs.

Touching a woman without her permission doesn't make you a hero. Try and understand that. How would you feel if your sister was walking down the street and a gang of rouges passed an ugly comment on her or even worse they abused her physically. Would you take all that and keep mum?

We don't need Indian army soldiers to fight with us in this war of seeking justice. We just want the real life men to join hands and seek justice. We must get together and voice our opinion and make India a better and safer place for women to live in.

Prove the patriotism in you. RESPECT WOMEN!!

JAI HIND!! VANDE MAATRAM!!